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My face is falling in

Below-lip bump.  Cheek dent.

So, today after I washed my face, I noticed I have, like, a hole in my cheek.  Well, not a hole exactly, just a deep indentation that was not there before, only on one side of my face (asymmetrical, nice!).  Every year or so, it seems I get a new permanent Thing I Do Not Want on my face.  A couple of years ago it was a tiny but very bright red spot on my forehead (not a broken blood vessel, not a pimple, more like a fleck of red crayon just under the surface).  It is easy to conceal, but I don’t want to have to do this every day.  Then about a year later,  I got a bump, out of the blue, between my lip and chin (see above).  This thing is unconcealable. It is now a part of me, which is to say I have gotten used to it (but still resent it when I see it casting its long shadow in photographs). Next, I got a little cluster of teensy tinsy bumps (it looks like a rash, but isn’t) on the real estate right next to the aforementioned tiny bright red spot.  These also refuse to go away; they’re like a small committee of skin tags, meeting to discuss whether they’ll stay tiny and sandpapery, or whether they will grow in strength and number and take over the rest of my face.

IMG_7470Red spot.  Rash (hard to ‘spot’, ha ha)

Ok, cosmetics industry (constantly targeting us older women to spend money on magical face creams) where is your solution for any of these issues?   My issues!  I was expecting wrinkles and pigmentation as I age;  I’m well informed about how to deal with those, but what about these completely random things just cropping up on my face?  Is this just going to keep happening every year until I look less and less like the old me, and more and more like Older Me (which if I think about it, is actually the New Me)?  Most days I’m really ok with the whole ageing thing, but I’m losing my sense of humour about random new potholes in my face, or additional protuberances like the one on my chin… and I’m especially nervous of that rashy bumps committee on my forehead. What are they planning? What is their next move?  Do they have a strategy?  What must I do to make them go away?

Please tell me I am not the only one this is happening to.  Your face is falling in too, right? Or you’ve also got some weird thing that just swans in one day and makes its home on your face?


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    Audrey Ward
    January 24, 2015 at 8:25 PM

    sebohoric keratosis spots on side of eye and near nose have fallen off with lots of attention and scrubbing. Juviderm once a year for past three years to fill major lines and caved in spits. Otherwise I have not done anything but a conscious investment in excellent skincare and facials.

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    January 24, 2015 at 9:33 PM

    I knew my face would never be the same one day when I looked in the mirror and recognized some of my grandmother’s features on my own face.

    One of the ruby spots that are not uncommon for me managed to show up on my face. I think it might have sprung up because I’d done something too harsh skincare-wise, but can’t prove it. It’s entirely possible the spot has been there forever but I just didn’t notice it.

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    January 25, 2015 at 8:43 AM

    Don’t be too worried about that girl, c’est la vie!

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    January 25, 2015 at 1:45 PM

    Marionette lines, gah! My bane. And some asymmetrical droopy neck-age going on down below. And then there’s my version of the pothole up near what I belive is called my orbital bone. Anyway, that particular chapter of falling face…failing face…features a mini crevasse about the size of a head of a pin in which I have to dig out accumulated anythings that migrate in.

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    May 24, 2016 at 1:52 PM

    I hear you sister , I developed a small lump on the side of my nose and within the same time span developed a gap in the middle of my teeth. I swear I was devastated beyond belief I was turning into nanny mcphee before my very eyes !! The lump after a visit to the doctors is apparently a sebaceous cyst (can’t be too careful so got it checked out)only removable by surgery which I’m looking into and my tooth gap that resembles more nanny mcphee than Georgia Jagger or madonna will now cost me me two dental implants and a new set of veneers!! Falling apart before my very eyes!! As they say youth is wasted on the young !!

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      May 24, 2016 at 2:20 PM

      LOL at Nanny McPhee! It really is so depressing. My latest thing is a deep wrinkle in my earlobe, like the ones you see in National Geographic on a very old wizened tribal elder. Well, I have one right now, at age 46. I’ve not had anything done to my face, but I’m seriously considering filler for my EARLOBES! We are falling apart, and youth IS wasted on the young. I hope your teeth and cyst get sorted fairly easily. Sigh! And a big hug to you. xx

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    October 8, 2016 at 11:49 PM

    I’m feeling for you. I’ve got a red broken vein on the side of my nose. It appeared after a branch fell a dug into it when I was cutting a tree. Being lazy and not seeing if I can get it sorted. Good luck with your issues. Jacqui

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      October 9, 2016 at 2:34 PM

      Oh, I’ve got those too. I just had the chin thing and the forehead bumps lasered off… my broken vessels are next on my dermatological to-do list! xx

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    May 21, 2019 at 6:36 PM

    Laser once every teo years removes those red spots. They keep coming back in different places but a good once over every 2-3 years keeps them at bay.

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      May 21, 2019 at 9:29 PM

      What great advice, Sue, thank you! I will try laser for sure. xx

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    August 17, 2019 at 3:44 PM

    I have the dent on my cheek, it looks like its caving in so no you are so not alone! and my once OK’ish teeth are moving, just waiting till they start dropping out!! and dont get me started on my knee!!! oh well here’s to the 60’s when my hair no doubt will start falling out too …. aghhhhhh

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      August 31, 2019 at 8:10 PM

      I’m surprised to read online how common the cheek dent is! I was hoping I was developing fabulously sculpted cheekbones, but alas, no :-). I hope your knee, your teeth, and your hair all stay put!! xx

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    Suzanne Stoneking Magisa
    January 8, 2020 at 2:54 PM

    The cheek dent, in many cases, is caused by leaning your face against your fist in the typical “I’m so bored” pose. When I read a book or get on my computer, I tend to prop my left elbow on the desk and lean my cheek on it. My “dent” is exactly matched where my knuckle contacts my cheek near the cheek bone. After a good long novel the dent is more noticeable. Now, at 65, it seems to be permanent. This pose if so typical of me that I just noticed that it is my Facebook profile picture!

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      January 20, 2020 at 2:06 PM

      Mine is caused purely by age, I’m afraid! I don’t ever sit in that position, so I’m stuck with it, I think. xx

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    March 5, 2020 at 4:00 AM

    So glad I found you! I woke up yesterday with a dent/hole under my right cheek bone. It looks better today but I’m still suspicious. My only guess is sleeping on my right side for too long. Don’t google it you will have nightmares!!

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      March 5, 2020 at 9:46 AM

      Haha, ok, I won’t google that. It is weird how it happens SO FAST though, no? Mine are still there, but they’ve changed a bit. xx

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    April 24, 2020 at 2:17 PM

    Just woke up with a cheek dent and the google brought me here! Why does the body do these strange things to us? It’s just not right lol

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      May 10, 2020 at 6:43 PM

      Yeah, I’m the top of the pops on Google “cheek dent” searches. It is a strange honour, but an honour nonetheless, :-). It is weird how it just occurs overnight. I always assumed ageing would be more linear, not a drop off of a cliff! xx

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    May 1, 2020 at 3:14 AM

    OMG! I woke up with the cheek dent this morning!! can’t believe how many comments I see here about that, only mine is also a little discolored. Darker than the rest of my face. Not a normal dark spot, just a little darker.

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      May 10, 2020 at 6:42 PM

      It is a big shock, isn’t it?! It just happens, BOOM! xx

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    Mimi LePage
    May 19, 2020 at 11:56 PM

    Cheek dent. here!! Within last month! What I???I have been using the Anma ( facial tool for few months! I thought things were getting better until the dent came. Wonder about facial massage. , would that help? Now I splurged on a sculpta products and I’m thinking did they do it? But I’m hearing from you guys that it’s just a random strike from the universe!?. At least She could have done it on both sides😛 how about a time machine!??😱

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    Luke Reeves
    June 4, 2020 at 11:14 AM

    My cheeks too are going inside, facial history marks increasing every year. The joys of aging.

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    June 19, 2020 at 2:20 AM

    I’m joining the cheek dent club! At 67, I just noticed it last month. Just one side. I don’t prop my face on my fist, but I do sleep mainly on that side. It’s weird, isn’t it? And I feel the bone under it much more than I do on the other side, like the muscle tone has gradually diminished. Geez !!! Glad I found this thread – and thanks for the warning not to Google it – I’ve been afraid to find out stuff I don’t want to obsess over.

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    August 6, 2020 at 12:18 PM

    Well this thread brings me comfort, oddly;-). Although, to get here I had to ask Google. Wow! is all I can say about the returns I got. I’m glad I clicked this link! My new cheek dent was joined by Rosacea, which I never had until now. Ugh…I’m 47 and really fear what else will change in the coming years. Does anyone know if something can be done about cheek dents? I’m using prescription Finacea 15% gel for Rosacea. Anyone have experience with this medication?
    Many hugs and solidarity to all!

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      August 10, 2020 at 2:12 PM

      Hi Robin! I don’t think a lot, besides maybe filler, can be done about the cheek dents. They are SO odd, how they just appear out of the blue! I don’t have any experience with that Rosacea medication, maybe someone else will. xx

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    August 28, 2020 at 7:01 AM

    Ummm, I am an 18 year old male and I was just washing my face and when I finished my skincare routine I also noticed a dent on my right cheek? It’s so weird, perhaps I never noticed it but maybe this time it looked more noticeable? I’m scared.

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    September 9, 2020 at 8:46 PM

    So glad I found this ! I had one cheek dent straight after a nasty fall so I thought that was the reason but then today a larger one just appeared below it – looks as if one side of my face is falling in — no pain now (fall was months ago) but this dent is so noticeable – if it’s just ageing – I’m nearly 63 – then OK I’ll put up with it – just glad if that is all it is –

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    September 30, 2020 at 12:52 PM

    I am 55 and noticed a dent at the top of my left cheek. No pain, just suddenly appeared. Glad to see other people have had similar. Was worried it was something more than ageing.

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    October 11, 2020 at 9:44 AM

    34 here and last week while talking with my mother, my father walks into the room and pointed at my cheek and said “You have a dent”. I went “Uh maybe cause of the way I was sitting” and he goes “oh the one on your other cheek matches”.
    Ugh I went to the mirror and noticed on both the top part of my cheek there are a bit of slanted but definitely dented slash.
    Been moisturizing like crazy since I have really dry skin.

    The red spots I’ve had popping up in different parts of my body for over a decade but since my health wasn’t great and I had allergies I use to think they were from that. Or stress and anxiety,, or even popped blood vessels that were just under the skin. So I put up with it.

    I’ve dealt with those like I did my stretch marks, I’ve just grew and thus this happensto show my progress. So why oh why are these indentations on my cheeks freaking me out?
    Or maybe I freaked out about the other things until I went into denial and said “Oh well that’s life. Hi mom, hi grandma”. Which I’m neither!!!!uxugchi ysYxicihxyz6exovt76e

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      October 18, 2020 at 10:45 AM

      I’m not sure why the cheek dents happen, but they do come on quite suddenly. It is a surprise when your face just looks different all of a sudden! Just another joy of “progress” as you say… xx

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