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My face is falling in

Below-lip bump.  Cheek dent.

So, today after I washed my face, I noticed I have, like, a hole in my cheek.  Well, not a hole exactly, just a deep indentation that was not there before, only on one side of my face (asymmetrical, nice!).  Every year or so, it seems I get a new permanent Thing I Do Not Want on my face.  A couple of years ago it was a tiny but very bright red spot on my forehead (not a broken blood vessel, not a pimple, more like a fleck of red crayon just under the surface).  It is easy to conceal, but I don’t want to have to do this every day.  Then about a year later,  I got a bump, out of the blue, between my lip and chin (see above).  This thing is unconcealable. It is now a part of me, which is to say I have gotten used to it (but still resent it when I see it casting its long shadow in photographs). Next, I got a little cluster of teensy tinsy bumps (it looks like a rash, but isn’t) on the real estate right next to the aforementioned tiny bright red spot.  These also refuse to go away; they’re like a small committee of skin tags, meeting to discuss whether they’ll stay tiny and sandpapery, or whether they will grow in strength and number and take over the rest of my face.

IMG_7470Red spot.  Rash (hard to ‘spot’, ha ha)

Ok, cosmetics industry (constantly targeting us older women to spend money on magical face creams) where is your solution for any of these issues?   My issues!  I was expecting wrinkles and pigmentation as I age;  I’m well informed about how to deal with those, but what about these completely random things just cropping up on my face?  Is this just going to keep happening every year until I look less and less like the old me, and more and more like Older Me (which if I think about it, is actually the New Me)?  Most days I’m really ok with the whole ageing thing, but I’m losing my sense of humour about random new potholes in my face, or additional protuberances like the one on my chin… and I’m especially nervous of that rashy bumps committee on my forehead. What are they planning? What is their next move?  Do they have a strategy?  What must I do to make them go away?

Please tell me I am not the only one this is happening to.  Your face is falling in too, right? Or you’ve also got some weird thing that just swans in one day and makes its home on your face?


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    Audrey Ward
    January 24, 2015 at 8:25 PM

    sebohoric keratosis spots on side of eye and near nose have fallen off with lots of attention and scrubbing. Juviderm once a year for past three years to fill major lines and caved in spits. Otherwise I have not done anything but a conscious investment in excellent skincare and facials.

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    January 24, 2015 at 9:33 PM

    I knew my face would never be the same one day when I looked in the mirror and recognized some of my grandmother’s features on my own face.

    One of the ruby spots that are not uncommon for me managed to show up on my face. I think it might have sprung up because I’d done something too harsh skincare-wise, but can’t prove it. It’s entirely possible the spot has been there forever but I just didn’t notice it.

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    January 25, 2015 at 8:43 AM

    Don’t be too worried about that girl, c’est la vie!

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    January 25, 2015 at 1:45 PM

    Marionette lines, gah! My bane. And some asymmetrical droopy neck-age going on down below. And then there’s my version of the pothole up near what I belive is called my orbital bone. Anyway, that particular chapter of falling face…failing face…features a mini crevasse about the size of a head of a pin in which I have to dig out accumulated anythings that migrate in.

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    May 24, 2016 at 1:52 PM

    I hear you sister , I developed a small lump on the side of my nose and within the same time span developed a gap in the middle of my teeth. I swear I was devastated beyond belief I was turning into nanny mcphee before my very eyes !! The lump after a visit to the doctors is apparently a sebaceous cyst (can’t be too careful so got it checked out)only removable by surgery which I’m looking into and my tooth gap that resembles more nanny mcphee than Georgia Jagger or madonna will now cost me me two dental implants and a new set of veneers!! Falling apart before my very eyes!! As they say youth is wasted on the young !!

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      May 24, 2016 at 2:20 PM

      LOL at Nanny McPhee! It really is so depressing. My latest thing is a deep wrinkle in my earlobe, like the ones you see in National Geographic on a very old wizened tribal elder. Well, I have one right now, at age 46. I’ve not had anything done to my face, but I’m seriously considering filler for my EARLOBES! We are falling apart, and youth IS wasted on the young. I hope your teeth and cyst get sorted fairly easily. Sigh! And a big hug to you. xx

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    October 8, 2016 at 11:49 PM

    I’m feeling for you. I’ve got a red broken vein on the side of my nose. It appeared after a branch fell a dug into it when I was cutting a tree. Being lazy and not seeing if I can get it sorted. Good luck with your issues. Jacqui

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      October 9, 2016 at 2:34 PM

      Oh, I’ve got those too. I just had the chin thing and the forehead bumps lasered off… my broken vessels are next on my dermatological to-do list! xx

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    May 21, 2019 at 6:36 PM

    Laser once every teo years removes those red spots. They keep coming back in different places but a good once over every 2-3 years keeps them at bay.

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      May 21, 2019 at 9:29 PM

      What great advice, Sue, thank you! I will try laser for sure. xx

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    August 17, 2019 at 3:44 PM

    I have the dent on my cheek, it looks like its caving in so no you are so not alone! and my once OK’ish teeth are moving, just waiting till they start dropping out!! and dont get me started on my knee!!! oh well here’s to the 60’s when my hair no doubt will start falling out too …. aghhhhhh

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      August 31, 2019 at 8:10 PM

      I’m surprised to read online how common the cheek dent is! I was hoping I was developing fabulously sculpted cheekbones, but alas, no :-). I hope your knee, your teeth, and your hair all stay put!! xx

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